How to ask a girl out on a date

1 Ask her out in person, if you can. Asking her out in person is key to successfully getting a date. Although you may be shy or intimidated, you can’t let those feelings rule you. A date is a potentially intimate moment when two people get to know each other a little better. You should start it off that way.

2 Pick the right time and place to ask her out. If you’re going to ask her out in person, pick the right time and place. Picking the right time and place to ask her out is one of the most important things in getting a date. You don't want to ask at the wrong time or place, or you might blow your chance. There are a number of things you should consider when asking her out in person:

Don’t pick a time or place where she is distracted.

If you’re in a bar or club with friends, try to find a moment when you're alone. Otherwise, some of your or her friends might invite themselves and make it a group date.

Don’t ask too early in your encounter. Ask toward the end of your encounter when you think you will part ways. Otherwise, you might seem too desperate.

3 Call her with confidence. Perhaps you got her phone number at a club, and want to contact her the day after and set up a date. This is alright, but make sure your phone call and texting is confident and pleasant. You’ve done the hard work of making first contact and getting her number, don’t blow it now.

Start off the conversation in a light way. Joke about something (appropriate). Try to get her laughing or relaxed.

Demonstrate your interest by asking her questions, but nothing too prying. Focus on light things.

Invite her out. Tell her you’d like to get to know her better. Based on personality, you can ask her to suggest something, or you can suggest something you think she likes.

If she declines, she might tell you why. If it’s a scheduling issue, ask her when a good time is for her. If not, drop it and politely end the conversation – unless you want to pursue a friendship.

If she accepts, try to end the conversation politely.

4 Text concisely. Texting might be a way to follow up with her after you met the night before. It is a noncommittal way to communicate that many people are comfortable with. However, there are a number of things you can do wrong that will blow your shot at getting a date.

Consider texting her the afternoon after you met her. By avoiding an immediate text, you're showing that you're thinking about her, but you're not obsessing.

Start off with a light or humorous comment that will relax her and remind her of who you are. For example: "Hey! Remember that devastatingly handsome guy you met last night?"

Don’t write a long message to her.

Instead, be clear, concise, and articulate what you want – a date with her. For example: "I'd like to take you out so we can get to know each other better."

Don’t be forceful. Avoid telling her what she should do or what she'll be missing if she does not go out with you.

Allow her time to respond. Don’t jump the gun if she doesn’t text back in 3 minutes and then shoot her another text. Wait a few hours or more. Chances are, if she wants to go out with you, she’ll respond.

5 Avoid being vague about when and where you’ll go out or meet. The last thing she wants is to date a guy who is wishy-washy about what he wants. Be clear about when and where you'd suggest meeting.[3] Feel free to ask her opinion, but if she defers to you don't worry about it. Pick where and when you want to go, and set the date.

Set a specific time.

Set a specific place

Let her know where you'll be going and what you'll be doing so she'll be prepared