Get Mad!

Get mad…

Stop people pleasing

Learn to grow and support yourself

Take it in

Absorb the facts

You don’t need to help them

Just to gain that sense of self

You don’t have to save them

To feel anything

But you should get mad about the revelation

About the moment you woke up

And realized you were being used

Again

That you had changed one abuse

For another’s hand

You tried to fix them

You tried to save them

When you needed to sit back and focus on yourself

On your own personal healing

Why are you still in survival mode?

How can you drag yourself out of those thoughts

That over-thinking

Why can’t you just survive?

Normal is being stuck in the same vicious cycle of repeated catastrophizing thoughts.

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The Process and the Journal Prompt/Exercise

Let the Anger Speak

• What are you mad about?

• When did you first feel it?

• What boundary was crossed?

• What did I need in that moment that I didn’t receive?

• If my anger had a voice, what would it say word-for-word?

Decode the Anger

• What is my anger trying to protect?

• What value of mine was violated?

• If I stripped away the anger, what vulnerable feeling is underneath?

Boundary Clarity

• What behavior specifically is not acceptable?

• What am I no longer willing to tolerate?

• What have I been allowing that I resent?

• Where have I been over-functioning or over-giving?

• What boundary would prevent this from happening again?

Practicing the Words

• Write the text or sentence you would say – No explaining, no apologizing, no blaming, no over-softening.

• Then ask – Does this sound like someone who believes they deserve respect? Where am I shrinking? Where am I unnecessarily harsh?

Identity Check

• Who do I think I become when I say no?

• What am I afraid will happen if I enforce this boundary?

• Is that fear based in the present, or my past conditioning?

Anger is Energy!

What is the anger inviting me to become?

If I trusted myself fully, what would I do next?