Stacy Valentine
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Warrior princess vibes with a cup of coffee in one hand and a ukulele in the other. I'm a writer, geeky nerd, language lover, and yarn crafter who finds magic in simple joys like books, video games, and music. kofi.com/kiofirespinner
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Why Being Liked is Overrated and Self-Respect is Everything
For a long time, I thought being liked was the goal. If people were comfortable around me, I felt successful. If no one was upset with me, I felt safe. If I could smooth things over, stay agreeable, and avoid conflict, I believed I was doing something right.
By Stacy Valentinea day ago in Motivation
You Are Allowed to Change as You Learn Yourself
There is a quiet fear that often comes with self-discovery: What if I outgrow the life I’ve built? As you begin to understand yourself more deeply, your needs, values, limits, desires, and patterns, you may notice that parts of your current life no longer fit the same way. Habits you once tolerated feel draining. Roles you once played feel heavy. Relationships that once made sense feel misaligned.
By Stacy Valentine5 days ago in Motivation
Stop Forcing Motivation: How to Create Systems that Support You
Most people believe productivity depends on motivation. They wait to feel inspired. They hope tomorrow they’ll wake up energized, focused, and ready to tackle everything. When that motivation doesn’t appear, they blame themselves. They call themselves lazy, undisciplined, or inconsistent.
By Stacy Valentine6 days ago in Motivation
The Difference Between Busy and Productive
We live in a world that celebrates busyness. Full calendars are worn like badges of honor. Exhaustion is mistaken for ambition. Being overwhelmed is often treated as proof that you’re important, needed, and doing something “right.” When someone asks how you’re doing, the socially acceptable answer is almost always, “Busy.”
By Stacy Valentine10 days ago in Motivation
Every Successful Person You Admire Took a Risk You'd Probably Avoid
From a distance, success looks polished. It looks like confidence, clarity, and momentum. It looks like someone who “just knew” what they were doing. Someone who found their calling early, trusted themselves effortlessly, and moved forward without hesitation. We see the outcome and assume the path was smooth, or at least smoother than ours.
By Stacy Valentine11 days ago in Motivation
The Real Difference Between People Who Make It and People Who Don't
From the outside, success can look like magic. We see the finished version of people, the career, the confidence, the achievements, and assume they must have been born different. More talented. More disciplined. More certain. More lucky. More everything.
By Stacy Valentine14 days ago in Motivation
From Daydreaming to Doing: How to Turn Desire Into Action
Daydreaming is easy. Action is not. You can sit for hours imagining a better life, the work you want to do, the habits you wish you had, the confidence you hope to feel, the version of yourself you’d love to become. You can picture it in detail, feel the excitement of it, even get a rush of inspiration.
By Stacy Valentine15 days ago in Motivation
The Difference Between Shadow Work and Self-Sabotage
Shadow work is meant to be a healing process, a gentle exploration of the parts of yourself you’ve hidden, suppressed, or rejected. Real shadow work helps you uncover inner wounds with compassion, curiosity, and patience. It invites you to understand why you think, feel, or react the way you do so you can integrate those parts instead of fighting them.
By Stacy Valentine28 days ago in Motivation
