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Let's Talk About Sex
For those of you younger generations out there, you might want to cover those eyes because this isn't censored. This is just a causal conversation about sex and those hormones that arose us. So grab a glass of that chardonnay or the bottle, and continue on...
By Beca Sayers9 years ago in Filthy
Why a Vibrator Should Be the Only Electronic In the Bedroom
I think we can all agree that sex is not the time for smart phones. There is nothing worse than being intimate with someone and, as soon as you’re done, they grab their smartphones and begin scrolling through Instagram, tapping "like" on all the girls you wish you looked like. The bedroom is somewhere for love and sex and all kinds of naughtiness; leave the smartphone and laptop out of the equation. (Unless you are playing your "in the mood" mix tape or watching my porn. Naturally). But there are some gadgets and gizmos that are made for this personal and intimate time with your partner (or your one night stand/fuck buddy).
By Samantha Bentley9 years ago in Filthy
Why Men Shouldn't Be Afraid of Sex Toys
Sex is great, and sex toys can make it even better, but many men seem to be intimidated by sex toys while their partners want them to know why men shouldn’t be afraid of toys. There are a number of reasons why men might fear toys in bed, but there are even more reasons why this is a fear to be overcome. Our time in this life is short, and there is nothing wrong with trying to get as much pleasure out of it as possible. Given that, why would you willfully deny yourself added fun and a better time? After all, it’s not like someone looks back at their life and smiles at all the fun they didn’t have. This guide will briefly outline some reasons men fear sex toys and then go on to explain why men shouldn’t be afraid of toys.
By Dr. Harmon Love9 years ago in Filthy
Quietest Sex Toys
Are you on the hunt for the quietest sex toys? Everybody needs that little space in their life to flick the bean or wank what’s in those jeans. Whether you’re fighting off nosy roommates, trying not to create noise complaints on your hotel getaway, or attempting to get some time in before the kids wake up from their afternoon nap, we’ve got you covered with a list of the quietest sex toys. That’s something that we understand. We’ve scoured the sex shops and located the ultimate quiet items for your pleasure. So run away, lock the door, and take your choice of the quietest sex toys.
By Lizzie Boudoir9 years ago in Filthy
7 Reasons Feminist Porn Is Better Than Real Porn
To many people, the idea of “feminist porn” is an oxymoron. Porn is often viewed as degrading towards women and some feminists, like second wave feminist Andrea Dworkin, believe that all porn, regardless of the context, is inherently degrading. Those feminists would be wrong. For some women, being empowered means being what BDSM porn star Rain deGray refers to as a, “professional naked person.” Exhibitionism is a common kink after all, so why wouldn't men and women with this kink want to capitalize on it? And with the sexual revolution, why shouldn't women have our own porn, geared towards us, and why shouldn't we embrace it as freedom, rather than write all of it off as degrading?
By Lizzie Boudoir9 years ago in Filthy
Shere Hite On the Importance of Masturbation
"Masturbation has helped me to know how to have an orgasm, and to recognize the stages of arousal I go through." My mother recently gave me a book she said changed her life in the late 1970s. Masturbation, in a very real sense, is one of the most important subjects discussed in The Hite Report book by Shere Hite, and was a cause for celebration because it is such an easy source of orgasms for most American women. Many women in the study said they could masturbate and orgasm with ease in just a few minutes. Of the 82 percent of women who said they masturbated, 95 percent could orgasm easily and regularly whenever they wanted. Many women used the term "masturbation" synonymously with orgasm: women assumed masturbation included orgasm.
By Alicia Springer9 years ago in Filthy
Why Foreplay is Slowly Becoming a Thing of the Past
Foreplay. The word quickly brings to mind a certain couple and situation . . . usually, a man taking a few minutes to ‘warm up’ his lady before the actual act of penetration, perhaps with slow and indulgent kissing, a sensual massage, a little delicate fingering, or even a saucily-applied vibrator. Sometimes oral sex is included under the ‘foreplay’ banner as well. Nothing like an enthusiastic blowjob before the main event, or perhaps some toe-curling cunnilingus. Anything to get everybody fully and utterly aroused before the P. goes in the V. That ‘traditional’ model up there has been around for quite a while, but it ---- and, indeed, the concept of foreplay in general ---- is slowly becoming a relic of the past. Why? Well, one significant reason lies in the growing visibility of LGBT+ couples. If two women, in the process of getting hot ‘n’ heavy, have a heated and desperate makeout session followed by tearing off each others’ clothes and finishing each other off with oral pleasure and digital penetration, you won’t find too many people protesting the fact that they’ve just had sex.
By Anne St. Marie9 years ago in Filthy
Impotent With His Wife
Patrick, a 29-year-old physician, has been married for three years; and already he is losing desire for his exceptionally good-looking 24-year-old wife. For the several months that they lived together before marriage, they’ve had sex two or three times, almost every day of the week. Honeymoon stage if I do say so myself. For the first year after marrying, despite his busy schedule at the hospital where he was taking his residency in pediatrics, they almost kept up this pace. But then Patrick began having trouble ejaculating, and would sometimes have to pursue active intercourse for 45 minutes.
By Dr. Harmon Love9 years ago in Filthy
How to Be Better in Bed - A Porn Star's Advice
Kind of a click baity title because I know that everyone, no matter how awesome you think you are at sex, wants to be better. Just double check there isn’t anything they missed off the old check list. I’ve had a lot of sex. It is fair to say I have had more sex and more sexual partners, both male and female, then most humans have in their life time. Yes, I do porn and a lot of those sexual partners were purely for on screen satisfaction, but shooting porn has taught me more about sex than any sex ed class or one night stand ever could.
By Samantha Bentley9 years ago in Filthy
Treating Sexual Paranoia
Though many of our parents' and grandparents' sex fears hardly affect us any longer, love and sex continue to be uppermost among the anxieties revealed in clinical consultation. Few still think that we will drive ourselves to the loony bin by masturbating. Not many lie awake nights worrying about the possible horrors of syphilis, illegitimate pregnancy, or abortion. Even regular run-of-the-mill thoughts of participation in acts of fornication and adultery have largely ceased to make us prepare ourselves for the fires of hell. Old sex fears have virtually vanished. This is not to say that sex education conquers all, for every contemporary sex survey conclusively proves that erotic ignorance is still widespread. But the worst mass misinformation seems now to be over. Only those adults who cannot or will not read seem to be as sorely ignorant as were their not-so-distant ancestors.
By Dr. Harmon Love9 years ago in Filthy
