Being a Girl Is Power — But Nobody Talks About the Exhaustion

There is this quiet, unusual strength that girls carry around, by way it burdens their back but yet, they are still proud of it. Every day showing more and more of their slowly draining strength.

And sometimes, it’s just… exhausting.

Let’s talk about it.

We Carry So Much Without Realizing It

Ever noticed how we’re expected to be soft and sweet—but not too soft because then we’re “weak”?

How we’re praised for being smart—but not too smart, because then we’re “intimidating”?

Or how we’re supposed to be pretty—but only in a natural, effortless way (but still somehow flawless)?

It’s like walking a tightrope in platform boots, hoping no one notices when we wobble.

Being a girl is power. But let’s be real—sometimes, it’s also just a lot.

The Pressure to Be Everything All at Once

You’re supposed to be ambitious but chill.
Confident but humble.
Hot but “not trying too hard.”
Strong but not “too masculine.”
Sexy but “not for attention.”
Kind but not “a pushover.”
Independent but not “cold.”

Like… can we breathe?

We’re growing up in a world that tells us we can be anything—but then silently judges us the second we choose who we want to be. And if you’ve ever sat on your bed feeling like you’re somehow failing at just being a girl, you are not alone.

Being “The Good Girl” Can Feel Like a Trap

Let’s talk about that “good girl” image.

She’s polite. She doesn’t cause trouble. She follows the rules, gets good grades, smiles when she’s uncomfortable, and says sorry when someone bumps into her.

Sound familiar?

We grow up trying to be her because we’re taught that’s how we stay safe. That’s how we’re liked. But the thing is, it teaches us to shrink ourselves. To keep quiet when we’re uncomfortable. To be afraid of being “too much.”

Here’s the truth: You don’t owe anyone a performance. You’re not here to be palatable. You’re not here to fit a mold.

You’re here to be you. Unapologetically.

When You Feel Like You’re “Too Much” and “Not Enough”

This one’s personal.

There are days I feel like I’m too loud, too emotional, too opinionated, too sensitive, too everything. And in the same breath, I also feel like I’m not pretty enough, smart enough, skinny enough, funny enough, successful enough.

How can we feel both at the same time?

Because we’re constantly being pulled in opposite directions. The world tells us to love ourselves—but then sells us products to “fix” everything. It tells us to be ourselves—but only if that self fits a certain aesthetic.

So let’s stop trying to be enough for them.
And start being enough for us.

You Don’t Have to Be Strong All the Time

There’s a kind of girl power that’s soft.
It cries after a long day.
It says “no” to protect your peace.
It sets boundaries.
It chooses rest over hustle.
It allows you to be human.

Being strong doesn’t mean you have to carry it all with a smile.

You can be powerful and still need a break.
You can be independent and still ask for help.
You can love yourself and still have insecure days.

You’re allowed to be the messy, moody, brilliant, complicated, ever changing work of art that you are.

The Silent Struggles We Don’t Always Share

Let’s be real for a second:

The way your stomach drops when you see a group of people laughing and you wonder if it’s about you

The panic of overthinking every text message

The guilt of eating “too much”

The feeling of being behind because someone else’s life looks perfect online

The days where your reflection ruins your whole mood

The nights you cry but you’re not even sure why

You are not crazy.
You are not alone.
You are not broken.

These aren’t “girl problems.” These are human emotions filtered through a world that expects us to be perfect. And the fact that you still show up every day? That’s your quiet resilience.

Feminism Isn’t Just a Movement—It’s a Daily Reality
It’s in the way we hype each other up.
It’s in telling your friend to block that toxic ex.
It’s in walking your classmate home after dark.
It’s in calling out double standards, even if your voice shakes.

Feminism isn’t just for marches and hashtags.
It’s in the daily, silent, sacred ways we show up for ourselves and each other.

Being a girl means constantly figuring things out. Fighting for space. Loving ourselves through the chaos. And still finding joy, laughter, and connection in the middle of it all.

That’s power.
That’s magic.
That’s us.

To the Girls Reading This

I see you.

I see the way you try. The way you care. The way you carry things no one even knows about.

You are allowed to rest.
You are allowed to be soft.
You are allowed to make mistakes.
You are allowed to take up space.
You are allowed to be you.

Not the version the world expects.
Not the version that’s always smiling.
The real one. Messy. Moody. Growing. Glowing.

You’re not too much.
You’re not not enough.
You’re just right.

And I’m proud of you.

Let’s keep building a world where girls feel seen, safe, and strong—just by being themselves.