Controlling emotions can be a skill.

Since decades scientists been concluding that emotions are involuntary and we have no control over them ,they are like little circuits build within our body. These little circuits are controlled by our brain ,giving out the desired emotions in a moment so we feel accordingly and we have very less control over this emotional chain reaction. But, a new study by Lisa Feldman Barrett a renowned neuroscientist says differently.

According to Lisa, emotions are conjectures, some near-to-correct guesses about how you should feel in a particular situation to ensure higher chances of survival. These guesses are influenced by three factors ,your body, your past and the current surrounding. So, they aren’t necessarily correct. The amount of control you can exert on your emotions is more then you imagined.

Your body plays an imperative role in managing your emotions, next time, an overwhelming emotion, try taking a walk or cut off your phone and if you’re in a place where physical movements are constrained, divert your focus on something else. The key is to bring your body, the rush of adrenaline to stasis.

Some people bring this stasis of body by doing drugs or marijuana or by eating snacks ,now here the short-term effects maybe as desired but the long term effects are severe to the overall health. Personally, I take a walk in neighbourhood or play with small kids ,it suits me. By taking a walk or something like that improves your body stability and changes the environment.

Adding to the role of your body and environment is, your past experience. You get the feeling that you’re not enough or you are not suitable for that appraisal , maybe because ,you thought your old boss was taking a jab on you and overlook all your hard work just to criticise you or they were being a jerk to you. Regarding your past experiences your mind take all those guesses of self-doubt restraining your post course of action to intend your survival in your work place. At times as such ,being present is the key. Keep a gratitude journal so you will be more attentive to your present ,instead of to drool over your past.

At first doing all these will be difficult like any other skill to learn. But now you see controlling emotions can be a skill ,with time you will improve. Emotions are just insights of your inner world and second guessing them can lead you to better self-awareness.

To get emotionally stronger ,try opening yourself to new experiences so you understand then well and embrace them. What you fell is normal whatever the circumstances cause emotions come from inside ,they are like your inner voice , I know some voices are hard to bare and difficult to get along, but once you get is habitual you will understand your feelings ,being more aware of yourself. Such beautiful emotions feel them , try to listen ,have them be with you ,embrace them as they are a part of you ,love yourself. By openings to more experiences you will see everyone is like you but still so different. Living isn’t about being sad or happy, it’s about feeling those moments of emotions. And I understand feelings are complex ,sometimes you weep happily, you smile sadly or just eat food. Point is whatever you do ,there’s nothing to feel guilty about ( unless you are not harming other people physically or mentally because that would be bad and I hope the viewer reading this article is good and yeah that’s all ).

Not every board is white but still you write . (silly, I know)