Heart break

Losing the One You Love:

A Journey Through HeartbreakAny individual can regard love as a feeling that greatly changes or moves them. It unites souls, connects hearts, and fills their dreams with countless moments together. But losing love can suck the colours out of this world. Losing someone who loves you back is indeed painful. In fact, it is one of the worst feelings in the world and for different reasons

The Burden That Comes With GriefConsidering a loved one after a breakup, separation, or even death is something unfair and can be really painful. The hurt that follows can manifest itself in tangible and often awkward ways, grieving or anger, even hurling guilt and depression. Such feelings can come in a lot of crippled waves at times, and at other times they appear out of nowhere.When one leaves, it hurts a lot. It brings grief and unbearable pain with several dreams alongside. Everything gets quiet, and there is an occurring lack of silence in shared environments.

The phrase that used to seem humorous, ‘being on the other side of the bed,’ carries weight, as there is a voice that used to lighten up rooms that is not near. Such phrases only make the process of moving forward a lot more excruciating.The Overall Scope of GriefWe all have this great pain of losing a loved one, and this pain is empathised thoroughly; however, it seems to be extremely individual. Considering the relationship augmented by other factors as well as the emotional outlet or resilience, every person deals with loss in their own unique way. For a few, loss can be in the form of weeping and being noncommunicative, but to some, it can be translated to irritability or a strong urge to seek answers.

A key aspect that must be remembered is that grief hasn’t got any specific algorithm to follow and is not even chronological. Different people treat it differently, and not all of them have a “correct way” of doing it. Grief has 5 phases, which are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, but the catch is the phases are not always in sequence, and some may occur multiple times. Different people treat it differently, and not all of them have a “correct way” of doing it.The Psychological ImpactEmotional suffering caused by a loss can take a high toll and never be forgiving.

Losing someone activates a section in the brain that says which can, at times, cross the boundaries of pleasure and deliver a painful experience. What can the psychological toll lead to, you might ask—an easy answer: depression, anxiety, insomnia, or a weakened immune system.Additionally, the mind is always racing with “what ifs” and “if onlys,” which can become very frustrating at times. Such thoughts can deteriorate one’s feelings of guilt or regret and affect one’s outlook for the future. It is important to identify these behaviours and seek help when these thoughts become too persistent.

Making Sense of LossLoving someone and losing them comes with a lot of pain, but that pain is also an opportunity for growth. Healing and growth require a person to reach the stage where they identify themselves outside of that relationship, which is a painful process. There’s a need to rediscover one’s passions, look forward, and not dwell in the past.It is possible to honour the past while moving into the future by accepting the present and its possibilities. Such the past and the relationship can be cherished for everything it brought. For example, one can think and learn from the relationship on how to reflect in the future or simply paint, write a song, or do anything creative to vent their emotions out.

The Role of Professionals in Grief CounsellingNo person should bear the burden of the loss all by themselves. Such feelings can be shared with one’s friends or family members so that others can offer support in return. Or seeing a counsellor or therapist can also work since they will help you with those emotions.Support groups and forums provide a wide range of companionship and understanding to those seeking help. Often, just knowing you’re not the only person suffering in pain is a great source of solace.

Moving Forward and Remembering a Loved OneProgressing does not entail losing a loved one whom you deeply care for. If they were to pass away physically, their vital role in your life is still enduring. Moving on and healing is about achieving the balance and control over your memories and not the other way around.As one ages, the severity of their grief can be expected to gradually decrease, thus making way for new connections and relationships. It’s completely fine to seek happiness, even if it is difficult initially. There’s nothing wrong with loving someone and looking for happiness again

A Flicker of HopeThe reality is that people are part of our lives, and at some point, we will lose them. It’s okay to feel loss; however, it’s also important to remember that our life is filled with good times and hardships as well. Loss only highlights how much love we had and how strong we are when it comes to dishing it out.In due time, the wounds that heartbreak brings may transform into mementos of love received and growth gained. They should not be seen as weaknesses but rather as a trait of embracing life with all its intensity.

To lose that someone special in your life is the greatest loss and the cruellest pain; it also means something more; it gives you another urpose.

Congratulations, you still have the chance to make him proud. As you undertake your healing experience, remember it is okay to feel pain, to grow, and to have aspirations. The road may be long, but it is the route that brings forth strength and also new beginnings, and finally, serenity.