How To Find Out That You're in Love *Really*

Trying to search Google for "how to find out that you're in love" will be bad

Because it is mainly shit is recommended.

This is a small example:

"They are always in your mind"

It's obsession.

If someone is 'always' in your mind, you will not focus on other things that really matter. So this is a problem. True love interferes in real life, and does not use it. It is calm and not overwhelming.

"You like them" or "Can't get enough of it"

look up.

"They are 'everything' for you.

"You are seeing them in the future"

"Whenever i think about my future job / place / adopted dogs, they always help me to achieve everything I do in the context of my imagination. Without them by my side, my future is really meaningless."

Okay, I mean it. You fantasize long enough and work hard enough so that you can see everything in the future - just as I can imagine moving to Australia for becoming a goat farmer. But it does not mean I should.The problem is that we turn 'love' into an escapist game, and potential partners measure how they adapt to this fantasy. This is not love.

See them in your future, of course, but it is not because of they 'complete and fulfill the picture'.

"They are the people you dream of"

look up.

"Always you want them to be around"

what. Hahaha. Obviously, you have never had a (healthy) long term relationship.

You should generally want for seeing bae. But love does not always want to. Sometimes you need a minute. Sometimes you have to work or do some other things. Or, damn it, just.Do not think that it is not love, because you sometimes want some space.

"You will impress them at all costs."

Outstanding. it's too narrow.

Do you work so hard? Love is not 'impressive'.

"Without her, I would never be with another woman ... the list goes on."

A healthy love does not have the fear of losing. This is an attachment. Nor does it involve the fear of 'never being with other woman'. I do not even know what it is. low self-esteem? Lack of faith?

"You are jealous"

It's attachment again, not a mature and good love.

"These are very beautiful."

It is self-love, not love. (Also: you're an idiot.)

"They are very kind."

Outstanding. I'm glad your emotional needs have been met. But that just means they deserve to be loved. That doesn’t mean you like them.

"You only just know"

Outstanding. Thankyou for the very unhelpful suggestion ever. To all who said it: Really? Please stand still.

Do not continue nonsense and name it 'romance' because you do not have the right answer.

Walk lightly:

"This is the best part and portion of your whole day"

"Meeting my girlfriend is always the highlight of my wholeday."

The difference here may be the rest of your day.

Very good: if you feel happy within your life and your partner joins in, congratulations. you won.

Very bad: But if you are unhappy and treat your partner like an oasis, you have to put your shit together.

"You give priority to them"

Very good: you really care about their needs and prioritize them in such a way that will not let you down

Very bad: you have endangered your desires and needs, or built your value on your ability to 'make them happy'.

How do you find out that you like him or her as a person:

They differ from others

You like their appearance more

Congratulations, you may still have hope.

You want to see him or her to be happy.

wonderful. I wish most people are happy.

You will try newer things with him or her.

You have found someone who makes you comfortable, and you like his company. good for you.

He or she makes inspire you to be a good human being.

Role models have this influence on us. And this does not mean we like them.

How to find out that you like them:

(1) You knew because you decided.

You can not feel love. You just do it. It is just an action, and not a feeling. It is a decision and reconnection every moment. We know, because it's conscious and deliberate.

(2) You understand, because you have done the act of love.

You will not intentionally cause damage. You have no resentments, are not stingy, do not love control or jealousy. It seems like their needs are never annoying. You will not reward them, their time or their feelings. Without constant insurance you are safe. You give priority to their opinions. You learned the language of their love. You are thinking in terms of their interest, not of you, but of you. You give support to them. You back up him or her. You care and take care of them. You allow them and accept them.

(3) You know that even if you do not want to, you will have Love.

Because in the clear air and calm water, everyone thinks they are in love, but watch them when the storm comes.

You know, because you love, even when you're angry. If you are not 'fighting', it is love; you do not agree.

If your goal is to reach a deal, rather than pick a winner, you'll be happy. If you are not defensive, insecure or manipulative, you will love. If not recorded. If you have no resentments. If you do not "take back your love" as punishment.

If you seek understanding before you understand it, you will love it; listen and respect what they share; you will not work harder for your own problems. If you do as you're in the similar team. listen. You forgive, you apologize and you compromise.You know, because even if you've hurt, you're still in love. Respect and especially respect their needs, even if it includes 'apart'.

What we really need to search for on Google is 'how to love', not 'how to find out' that we are in love.' We like to distinguish between 'fall in' and 'love someone'. But 'invasion' is infatuation, and infatuation is pointless to get true love.

So if you want true love, then 'how to do it' is the most important thing.

You 'know' because you have decided. If you do, it's love. the whole time.