The Fam and the Date
Will they get along?
At some point in your relationship, your partner might want you to meet his or her family. This might be a nerve racking situation, because you might be afraid that his or her family won’t like you, or you might even be afraid that his or her family will judge you. Nevertheless, if your partner is close to his or her family, then it is important to go through with this step. Getting to know his or her family might help you learn about how your partner grew up. It might offer an explanation as to some of the things that shaped his or her personality, and it might allow you to find other people that know your partner better than you do in some ways.
So, if your partner decides it is time for him or her to introduce you to his or her family, you might want to ask how many people he or she has brought home to meet them. This might give you a clue as to how serious this meeting will be. For instance, if your partner brings everyone that he or she has dated home to meet his or her family, then the family might be used to new guests. This also might mean that the family won’t necessarily take your relationship as long-term at first, because if they have seen a lot of other people with your partner, they probably were there when your partner broke up with those people too. So, it might be more difficult to show that you are serious about your relationship, and you might want to try and be patient with his or her family while they assess your situation with your partner. Even though they might not take everything serious at first, they might start to come around with time. Actions speak louder than words, so do your best to show them what you want. Let them see that you are there for your partner when he or she needs it. Show them how the two of you complement each other. Don’t expect your partner’s family to take what you say to them as the way it is. If the two of you are meant to be together, it should be obvious in your actions.
Now, if your partner hasn’t taken too many people home to his or her family, then you might have completely different issues. His or her parents might not accept you as a good partner for their relative. It might take a little longer for the family to open up to you and for you to bond with them. However, if you are willing to stick it out long enough to let them come around, you might find that they are extra supportive of you and your partner once they see that the two of you are in it for the long run.
Meeting your partner’s family can be an anxiety-ridden situation, but if you practice patience and understanding, you might find that these new people are a good addition to your life. Do your best to be respectful when you meet the family and try to learn their customs and traditions. This might help things run more smoothly. Also, realize if the family is protective of your partner, they care about him or her. It isn’t a bad thing to be protective. You want other people looking out for your partner. So, do your best to be polite and patient, and things might work out better than you originally expected. It might just take a little time for his or her family to completely trust that the two of you are in it for the long-run.
About the Creator
Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue
Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue is a Midwest-based author known for her captivating lesbian romance novels, compelling mysteries, and heart-pounding thrillers. To find out more, visit: http://www.nicolehigginbothamhogue.com
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