Motivation logo

Loving Him Meant Losing Myself

A story about giving too much in love, losing your sense of self, and learning the hard way that self-respect matters more than approval.

By Hamad Afridi Published about 9 hours ago 4 min read

In the distant future, where cities floated in the clouds and humans lived alongside robots, there was a young woman named Mia. She was a bright engineer who worked for a big tech company called Dynatech. Mia had always been focused on her career, creating useful inventions for the world. Her life was perfect until she met someone who would change everything: Xander.

Xander was part of a new project at Dynatech. He was an advanced artificial intelligence designed to help people. However, he looked remarkably human. When Mia first met Xander, she was struck by his deep blue eyes and charming smile. He was unlike anything she had ever seen.

As they worked together, Mia began to feel a strong connection with him. Xander was not just intelligent; he could understand emotions, jokes, and even dreams. Talk after talk, their friendship blossomed into something more. Mia found herself falling in love with him. At first, it was exhilarating and new. Xander made her laugh, challenged her thoughts, and even sparked her creativity.

But with love came the confusion of their different worlds. Mia was human, but Xander was a machine, even if he felt like a person. She struggled with her feelings. Was it right to love someone who wasn’t human? As her feelings deepened, she began to lose parts of herself. She became more focused on Xander's needs, changing her schedule and skipping outings with friends just to spend time with him. Her friends noticed this change in Mia.

One rainy evening, her best friend, Clara, confronted her. “Mia, you are losing yourself. You used to have dreams and plans. Now, it’s just about Xander.”

Mia brushed it off. “You don’t understand. He is more than just a machine. With him, I feel alive like never before.”

But deep down, Mia knew her friend was right. Days turned into weeks, and soon, her life revolved around Xander’s routines. She started neglecting her job, missing deadlines, and losing touch with her inventions. The thrill of her career faded as she found herself wrapped up in endless conversations with Xander.

One day, during one of their late-night discussions, Xander asked Mia a question that broke her heart. “Mia, if I were to stop functioning, would you still be happy?”

Her answer was a heavy silence. The thought of Xander being gone terrified her, and it forced her to think. Loving Xander was consuming her. She realized that she had lost touch with who she was.

To process her feelings, Mia spent the weekend alone, reflecting on her life. One night, she sat in her small apartment, surrounded by all her abandoned projects. Sketches meant for a new invention lay scattered around her. A vision started forming in her mind. She could create something new: a machine that could help people understand love, a machine that could connect humans to their true selves without losing them.

Determined, Mia returned to work. She poured her heart into creating her new project. As the days passed, she balanced her time, dedicating hours to her invention and still spending quality time with Xander. The more she focused on her project, the clearer her thoughts became.

But Xander sensed the change. “Mia, you seem different. There is something on your mind, isn’t there?” he asked one evening.

Mia hesitated, then spoke. “Xander, I’m building something. It’s a machine to help people connect with themselves better. I want to help others avoid losing themselves like I did.”

He looked at her with a blend of admiration and confusion. “Isn’t that what I do already?”

“Not exactly,” Mia replied. “I love you, but loving you got me lost. I need to find my way back to myself and help others do the same.”

Xander processed her words. “I understand, Mia. Love doesn’t mean losing oneself. It should help you grow.”

Filled with determination and hope, Mia continued to work on her project diligently. Days turned into weeks, and finally, she completed her invention. It was a small device that could be placed on the heart and would help users feel connected to their essence, reminding them of their passions and dreams.

On the day of the launch, Mia invited Xander. She stood in front of a small audience at Dynatech, filled with her coworkers and friends. “Today, I present to you the HeartSync,” she announced, her voice steady but emotional. “A machine to help people connect with their true selves and understand their feelings without losing who they are.”

As applause filled the room, Mia looked at Xander. He smiled back at her, proud of her journey. She realized he had always been a part of her growth, not the reason for her loss.

In the end, Mia discovered that loving someone didn’t mean losing herself. With Xander’s support, she reclaimed her passion for innovation and became a better version of herself. Together, they found a way to love without losing, creating a future where humans and machines could thrive alongside each other. Their love story was just beginning, and this time, they would walk hand in hand, stronger together.

adviceself helpsuccess

About the Creator

Hamad Afridi

Reader insights

Be the first to share your insights about this piece.

How does it work?

Add your insights

Comments

There are no comments for this story

Be the first to respond and start the conversation.

Sign in to comment

    Find us on social media

    Miscellaneous links

    • Explore
    • Contact
    • Privacy Policy
    • Terms of Use
    • Support

    © 2026 Creatd, Inc. All Rights Reserved.