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Advice and tips on managing mental health, maintaining a positive outlook and becoming your happiest self.
Are a narcissist person?
Narcists? What does this word really mean? Let's see here; it means that a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. But here the true meaning of this word and the actual meaning of the word; Narcissism, in its most basic terms, is self-absorption to the point of being unable to empathize with others. It is a generalized personality trait that can be thought of as selfishness and self-centeredness which is taken to the extreme. Well we got that out of the way. I lived a normal life since the age of 10 years old, since I can remember. I don't remember much around that age but as I started to grow up little by little I started to notice how my own mother started to treat me? She never once called me her daughter she always called me by my name Alice. I always tried to be the miss perfect daughter towards her and did what I was spouse to just so she can be proud of me as a child that she can call me her own daughter, she didn't even budge.... I always tried getting good grades in school, I always made sure I did my homework once I got home, and I made sure the house was clean! But it was never enough for her to even once call me "daughter". That made me sad but I didn't think to much of it till I got into my teen years that is when I really got into depression, and anxiety hit. I once even tried killing myself but something told me to call for help and I ended up calling the police and told them exactly what I was doing and I needed help and if I didn't I wouldn't be here today. My mother didn't know what was going on 'cause she would always tell her friends every little fucking details about her kids. It was fucking so damn stupid, she would tell them exactly what I told her a couple of hours earlier. I stopped telling her shit, and I was happy that I did. So I ended up in a Mental Hospital for two whole months, which was a good thing it was during summer, 'cause I didn't want to miss school. So two months past and I am back at home with my parents, my mother Lora took days off of work to watch over me and make sure I didn't do anything. It seems sweet and all in the beginning, wait till I get into my high school years and after high school. So time went on and I started getting older by time and etc. There have been times when my mother wouldn't be home and I had to ask my father where she went? Around this time I was probably close to being 18 years old. She never tells me shit especially where was going when you think your parents will be home but turns out they are gonna be home super late. So my dad told me that my uncles was hurt!? Honestly I forgot on what he got hurt for... Me and my friend Annie, we had always been friends since late middle school years and we been super close in high school. Next thing was when my mother would always forced me to study for my drivers license none stop. Especially when I was 16 years old and she never stopped doing that! This might not be a narcissist family in your eyes but there is always a whole different part in other peoples life who have it a different ways! Here's couple of things to look out for while I tell a few little areas I have been. Here we go;
By Ms. Thomas5 years ago in Psyche
Emotional Dependency in Relationships
Emotional dependency creates an inner emptiness where the person abandons themselves and expects their partner to fill their emptiness and make them feel loved and safe. In emotionally dependent relationships, normal ups and downs become artificially steep. The stability of the relationship becomes compromised by one’s dependency traits. The dependent person sets up conditions for pleasure that are impossible to maintain, guaranteeing failure and the distress which accompanies it. The emotionally dependent relationship occurs with significant overlap between the physiological effects of love and addiction. Social addiction nurtures defeatist ideas that cannot be changed because of altered thinking and behaviors, disconcerting dependency. (Jantz, 2015). Factors, both, emotional and physical, contribute to certain behaviors, either within a single relationship or switching relationships. The emotional dependent individual succumbs in relationships both romantic relationships and parent-child relationships. Whereby, the dependent person does not take full responsibility for their own feelings, e.g.; nurturing painful life feelings of loneliness, helplessness over others, heartache, heartbreak, sorrow and grief. Furthermore, the dependent does not define their own inner worth, instead, makes others' approval and attention responsible for their sense of worth. Dependency relationships makes unhealthy relationship situations that causes wounded feelings of anxiety, depression, victim hurt, guilt, shame, anger and jealousy (Paul, 2010).
By Shanie Walker5 years ago in Psyche
Mindfulness
Mindfulness-integrated Cognitive Behavior Therapy offers a practical set of evidence-based techniques derived from mindfulness training together with principles of Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) to address a broad range of psychological disorders and general stress conditions. Valuable mindfulness exercises of both RAIN and STOP embeds central principles and mechanisms of mindfulness to include equanimity and impermanence. Mindfulness involves paying attention to each event experienced in the present moment within our body and mind, with a non-judgmental, non-reactive and accepting attitude (Cayoun and Elbourne, 2019). Depression, anxiety and stress disorders are among the most common illnesses in the community and in primary care. The mental health practitioner is well placed to identify and take a primary role in treatment of these illnesses, to facilitate better mental health outcomes (Zarcone, 2009). In learning to be mindful, through RAIN and STOP, the patient can begin to counter many of their everyday sufferings or symptoms of stress, anxiety and depression. Both mindfulness practices aid with peoples doubts, fears or difficult emotions to mitigate negative effects with a healing presence.
By Shanie Walker5 years ago in Psyche
2nd NEW DRAFT - Anxiety, Signs, Symptoms, types
What is Concern or Anxiety? Anxiety is your body's natural response to stress. It is a feeling of fear or anxiety about what is to co me. Most people may be scared and nervous the first day of school, go to a job interview, or give a speech.
By Sarfraz Hussain5 years ago in Psyche
Beyond "Going for a Run"
At some point in our adulthood, many of us are faced with the uncomfortable reality that our depression is here to stay. Maybe it's seasonal, triggered by external factors, or ongoing, but it's clear that it's not leaving any time soon. For those who live alongside depression long term, here are some tips from personal experience that I hope can enrich your life.
By Eriko Jane5 years ago in Psyche
How to deal with Emotional Burnout for the future
The hard part about depression is the unpredictable nature that happens with the various ways depression can effect in the aftermath. Emotional burnout is one of the worst kinds of depression without having to have depression in the term.
By Samantha Parrish5 years ago in Psyche
Weight a minute...this works?
I am in a deeply committed, wonderfully happy, relationship with my bed. It's my safe place. When all else in the world seems overwhelming, I know my memory foam mattress and pillow will be there to soften the crushing blows dealt to me on the daily by reality.
By Nati Saednejad5 years ago in Psyche
There Will Always Be Trolls
It doesn’t matter who you were, are, or who you are about to become. Nor does what you’ve done, are doing, or about to do matter. There will always be Trolls in your life. No, not the cutesy kind they invented for children. These real-life ogres can be strangers, friends, and yes, even your family. They will pounce to add nasty comments on social media, creep around the water cooler at work, or sit at the dining room table making snide remarks. They are quick to criticize, highlight a flaw, and well, are just mean-spirited and nasty.
By Francesca Flood, Ed.D.5 years ago in Psyche
Healing Yourself
Recently, I've seen innumerable posts on social media about self-care. What disturbs me is that they all suggest the same techniques. "If you are feeling overwhelmed, light a candle and take a bath." The posts report that we are all experiencing anxiety and depression "in these unprecedented times" and just need a homemade spa day to feel better. Go on a walk with your dog. Listen to some uplifting music. These social media self-help gurus suggest that mindfulness meditation will take care of the crushing stress I've been feeling for months now. The problem is... it doesn't work for me and it may not work for you.
By Lindsey Gollwitzer5 years ago in Psyche
12 ways to deal with social anxiety when you're an extrovert (Covid-19 edition)
Social anxiety. These two words hold so much agony in itself, but the worst is when it shows up when you least expect it. The fear of screwing up, of hurting someone, of being idiotic, all these thoughts hindering your everyday life... Yes, it's absolutely exhausting. And sadly, it's not only for you, but for those who surround you as well. Plus, if you're an extrovert that craves other's company, life can become like a living hell.
By Kunipatootie5 years ago in Psyche
Growing up again
I was broken, dragged down the path against my destiny, without a single memory that truly felt like it belonged to my being. Continuously going through the motions until I had forgotten what I was moving toward, I covered the feelings I refused to let myself express under thick smoke that only further clouded the clarity of my future. I didn’t want to admit I had no plan. The journey I started to collect the parts of myself I had lost along the way began before I even realized what was happening. For a while, I was picking up pieces to then only leave them in different places I didn’t want to go back to. Putting myself back together without the internal compass to even know who that was; it was beautifully exhausting. The determination to feel complete, while simultaneously overindulging in actions I didn’t want to claim, led to my downward spiral to rock bottom. The dying silver maple I had grown into was finally chopped down and it was time to heal my roots so I could bloom into the sturdy oak that would last the storm.
By TheLateBloom 5 years ago in Psyche
