coping
Life presents variables; learning how to cope in order to master, minimize, or tolerate what has come to pass.
Simple Truths
In the last few months many people I know have lost people they love. I feel heartbroken for them. I wish I could offer words that contained the power to heal but I have nothing. In fact, I think if they were to stand before me the truth is I would be nervous of what to say and how to act. I would be cautious of saying anything trite or redundant. The good ol “I’m so sorry for your loss” or the comforting “they will always be with you”. Although full of good intention they become just something people say. When I lost my mom I felt like if I heard one more person say to me “I’m so sorry” I was going to lunge at them. Each time it felt like taking a bullet. I can’t offer any words of advice or spiritual guidance. Having lost my soulmate, someone who is truly the best part of me, I’m sure should have somehow qualified me for such a task but it doesn’t. Each person’s experience belongs to only them and just because we lose someone doesn’t qualify us to say “I know how you feel”. It doesn’t qualify us to know someone else’s pain or experience. What I can offer is some simple truths in my experience.
By Nicole Daga5 years ago in Psyche
"It"
“It” gathered around my flesh as if I submerged myself in the pool that awaits the powerful fall of the water. The “it” we spend our conscious and sub conscious mind trying to acquire. “It” is a multitude of simplicities we weave into an overwhelming tarp of complexities that constrict us.
By Jada Ferguson5 years ago in Psyche
The Breakup that Finally Made Me Get Help
I'll start by saying that this was not an easy article for me to write and it took me some time to work up the courage. In the end I felt like the struggles I am facing should be talked about, because it's a story many might relate to in secret. Maybe by sharing my own journey and showcasing my demons, I can inspire those who need it, to confront their own mental health issues too. This article is about a fresh start, something accessible to us all and something that comes first from looking inwards.
By Nessy Writer5 years ago in Psyche
Self-Love
My wellness goal in 2021 is self-love. I chose self-love because I have finally realized that I cannot do anything to better myself without it. Without self-love, weight lost is weight gained back. Self-esteem nurtured is self-esteem shattered. Healthy boundaries established are healthy boundaries crossed. And the pattern of self-sabotage and self-loathing continues.
By Carissa Strongwell5 years ago in Psyche
Music Saved Me
It's funny as an adult to look back on those defining moments that made you who you are. For me, it was when I was fifteen and discovered music as a safe place where I could just be without judgement or expectations. I had always felt like I didn't quite fit in but could never put my finger on exactly why. When I was younger I had many friends but as we all grew older, we became distant as new groups were forms and many of us were labeled as outcasts. Me and a few others gravitated together since we did not fit into any of the other popular groups. I was a teacher's pet and a nerd but back then, it was not cool to be so. I was a chubby girl that wasn't rich or athletic. I wanted friends and to be apart of some kind of group, I just didn't know how to accomplish this. So, I grew farther and farther into my own little bubble. I had my books which allowed me a certain level of escape to various adventures where I didn't have to be me for a time. Then, there was my music. I grew up in a time where the music was amazing. The eighties and nineties truly had the best music; I would probably include the seventies into this musical world of mine as well.
By Barbara Beals5 years ago in Psyche
A Year of Triumph
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, 51.5 million Americans reported living with a mental illness in 2019. That number represents 20.6% of the American population. As a part of that number, I've struggled with generalized anxiety disorder and bipolar disorder for many years. Like all battles, there are periods of rest; seasons of life where the symptoms lie dormant and I'm able to breathe, and connect, and live the way I want to live. I'm able to wake up in the morning, drink a cup of tea and enjoy the peace that so often eludes me. Those periods of rest can last anywhere from a week to 4 years, but they do come, and they are coveted.
By Emily Flanagan 5 years ago in Psyche
Goodbye Pain, Hello Healing
In order to move forward into 2021, I have to reflect on all the life altering events I've experienced recently. This past year and a half has shaped me into someone I don't totally recognize. Vauge vocabulary is how I choose to describe who I am becoming because if there's anything I take away from 2020 is that new challanges and decision making is always right around the corner. And that at those critical moments, you can lose your self with a simple yes or no. I hadn't realized I was looking at each day with a light and dark attitude until this new year. It's been as if I am the Earth, forever rotating towards and away from the sun. Both nightfall and daylight equally appealing. Wanting to choose to heal but feeling too sick to step up. So in order to truly give myself a fresh start, away from this internal love-hate relationship, I have to go back to when my life really started to change.
By Rebecca Ciminillo5 years ago in Psyche
