sexual wellness
Safe sex is the first step to enjoyable sex. Advice on improving your sexual health to improve your sex life.
Nobody Gave Me an Owner's Manual for My Vagina
I've been thinking a lot about vaginas this week. I suspect anyone who owns one actually thinks and worries about it quite a bit. I also suspect those who don't own one think about them a lot too. Maybe I'm thinking about vaginas because I'm going in for clinical treatments again and that means I will have a lot of nurses and doctors poking around down there. Maybe it's because I'm reading feminist manifestos again. Maybe it's because my uterine lining is shedding, I'm bleeding like someone shived me, and it hurts like a sonuvabitch. Whatever the impetus for this train of thought is, I've been thinking about muffs, vags, minges, lady bits, pussies, cunts, twats, caverns, holes, carpets, mounds, vulvas, etc., etc. and now I'm gonna write about them.
By Sarah Sparks9 years ago in Filthy
The Danger Word
These days, everyone knows what a safe word is. It's a word, or a short phrase, you can say as a signal to let other people know you are no longer comfortable with an activity, and you need it to stop. The word originally comes from the kink community where participants would be engaged in scenes that might push boundaries, and trigger unwanted emotional responses. Bondage, whipping, consensual non-consent, etc. In some cases a person might even want the freedom to shout stop without their partner actually stopping.
By Neal Litherland9 years ago in Filthy
My Initiation into The Lifestyle
It was my very first time having actual sex in a club, swingers setting. I was in my mid-forties and just discovering my sexuality through my second marriage. Up until this time, I had been just like many women you know, playing it by the traditional rules set for us as wives and mothers. The initial appeal of my second husband was the authoritative age difference he brought and his support in broadening my sexual horizons. This is the story of my first swinger's experience when I actually did something brave and entirely new.
By Amelie Peyton Cash9 years ago in Filthy
It's Time To Strip Masculinity From Our Relationships
How many marriages do you know where the woman 'wears the trousers'? How many matriarchs do you know who rule benignly over the entire family? I believe that this is not enough and I, and many of my female friends, are now embarking on a more formal form of leadership in our marriages and relationships with our menfolk; the
By Alexa Martinez9 years ago in Filthy
The Man with the Master Key
I had been seeing my favorite client, who I refer to now as 'The Impossible One' for about two years at this point. Things had already gotten over the line as far as the business vs. personal relationship. He was definitely my favorite. I was nuts about him and vice versa. So the lines were already blurred. There was a lot of internal things going on, emotional as well as physical. One of the rules of my business was to not get involved or fall in love with a client. That rule had been broken.
By Amelie Peyton Cash9 years ago in Filthy
Why Do We Find It So Difficult to Talk About the Important Things in Life?
After being contacted this morning by a fellow Twitter warrior; I felt it necessary to write this piece. He like myself has a "cause", his being that person who brings awareness to Herpes and the fact that it is so widespread and somewhat common these days, but no one wants to talk about it. Of course, he was feeling discouraged and perhaps knew intuitively that I might be someone he could share his angst with. He was right.
By Amelie Peyton Cash9 years ago in Filthy
What Men Can't Do At Home
Nearly all of my clients would talk to me about their personal or private “normal” lives to one degree or another. I have heard many complaints of what I have come to call “reluctant” sex. This is a position most wives have found themselves in. This double-edged sword of spoken and unspoken rules of our culture dictate that a wife and mother cannot also be a vixen. The two things just don’t mix. I experienced this in my first marriage, which lasted for eighteen years. When raising children and being consumed with domestic responsibilities, we women put sex pretty much on the bottom of the list. My first husband and I had very regular sex. With that being said, as I learned more about my sexuality through my second marriage, I was able to look back at the first marriage with more objectivity and understanding.
By Amelie Peyton Cash9 years ago in Filthy
Far-Reaching Health Benefits of Sex
Sex is a word bantered about in the media, conjuring a host of diverse images, however, seldom is this basic human act’s role in health and wellness discussed. Not so in Germany where researchers recently published the results of an extensive 10-year study that indicated that women and men who have sex on a frequent basis tend to be happier, more vivacious and slimmer than those persons who don’t have an active sex life.
By Marlene Affeld9 years ago in Filthy
Understanding Sexual Obsessions and Addictions
“Sexual compulsions and PRDs are complex psychiatric disorders therefore exact causes are not known, although there are many theories. Whether they represent an addiction, obsessive-compulsive disorder, impulse control disorder, or a pattern of hypersexualism is still a matter of controversy. Some have argued that since these disorders represent an ongoing pattern of uncontrolled sexual behaviour, they should be viewed as an addiction because like substance abuse, these consist of a pathological relationship with a mood-altering experience. Others have argued against this idea, instead describing paraphilias and PDRs as symptoms of an underlying obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD).” - M. Williams, PhD brainphysics.com
By Carol Edwards9 years ago in Filthy
BDSM Terms You Need To Know
BDSM isn't just a fetish; it's a community, a lifestyle, and a concept. Really, it's what you make of it. Among community members in the BDSM world, there are a number of terms that you may have heard that don't really make sense. This is because a lot of BDSM communities basically have their own lingo to discuss fetish matters.
By Ossiana Tepfenhart9 years ago in Filthy
