Are You Draining or Flourishing?

People must stay in a place where they can nourish themselves.

A while ago, during a consultation, a girl came to me to discuss her career. She originally wanted to discuss her work problems, but as we were talking, she suddenly sighed and said, "Actually, the biggest problem is not work, but my family environment."

Her family atmosphere had always been negative. Her parents were cynical about her choices, and her siblings were more competitive than supportive. She tried hard to do her job well, but every time she went home, she was always poured cold water on. Over time, she began to doubt whether she was really good enough.

Until one day, she finally plucked up the courage to move out. She was worried that she would feel even more lonely, but she found that her roommates were a group of warm people. Everyone helps each other. If someone works overtime too late, another person will buy them dinner. If someone is in a low mood, everyone will find time to chat and offer support. This lifestyle made her feel like she was truly "seen" for the first time, and her daily mood was much more stable than before.

She said "I always thought that I didn't work hard enough, but now I realize that it was just the wrong environment."

This sentence really touched me, because too many people feel that they "can't hold on," but in fact, it is your environment that is consuming you.

There is a very interesting plant experiment: researchers divided two pots of the same plants into two groups.

Group A: Every day, someone said negative things to them, like "You are so ugly" and "You won't live long."

Group B: Every day, someone said positive things to them, such as "You are so beautiful" and "You will definitely grow up healthy."

After a few weeks, the results were shocking - the leaves of the plants in Group A began to turn yellow, their growth slowed down, and they even withered; while the plants in Group B grew healthy and lush.

This experiment tells us that even plants are affected by the environment, let alone humans. If you live in a negative environment for a long time, you will gradually lose energy even if you were originally healthy. On the contrary, if you stay in a place that supports and encourages you, your growth will come naturally without any extra struggle.

"It's not that you're not strong enough, but the environment determines whether you can grow well."

Why do you need to live somewhere that nourishes you?

Your emotional state depends on the environment you are in.

If you stay in a negative environment for a long time, you will get used to suppressing and doubting yourself, but in a supportive place, your energy will naturally increase, and you will become more stable and confident.

Your environment affects your view of yourself.

If you stay in an environment that belittles you, you may feel that you are really not good enough. But if you have people around you who are willing to support and affirm you, you will also begin to believe in your own value.

Your environment affects your inner motivation.

In an environment that drains you, you may be exhausted just by "maintaining the status quo." But when you stay in a place that nourishes you, your motivation will become natural and continuous, and you will want to improve without having to force yourself to work hard.

Instead of trying to "fit in" to an environment that consumes you, you should choose a place where you can shine. If you feel like you can’t hold on no matter how hard you try, don’t be too quick to doubt yourself. Ask yourself first: “Is this environment simply not suitable for me?”

Because when you are in the right place, growth happens naturally; it cannot be forced.

Thank you for reading!