breakups
When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.
12 Signs of Walkaway Wife Syndrome (Before It Happens)
Everyone knows at least one former couple that seemed so happy until they broke up out of nowhere. The wife seemed happy, the husband was thrilled, and the overall vibe seemed great. Then, when the breakup occurred, all the secrets got spilled out. She cheated, he hit her, and suddenly you’re wondering what you really knew about your friends.
By Sasha Konikovo7 years ago in Humans
How to Get Back at an Ex (While Still Being Classy)
"Revenge is a dish best served cold."—Proverb I'm a person who has seen the ugly side of humanity, and its ugliest faces have revealed themselves to me in the dating scenes. I've seen abusers, thieves, users, cheaters, and narcissists put good, innocent people through unspeakable amounts of pain.
By Iggy Paulsen7 years ago in Humans
The Healer and the Anti-Hero
I knew you were an anti-hero from the start. Neither a villain, or a hero. I suppose the good thing about is you don't pretend to be someone you're not. You fully know you're not the bad guy, but you're also not the good guy either. You carry a sense of morals with just a dash of bad-assery. You have a moral compass but you only follow it when it suits you. I knew all these things about you, but yet I somehow ended up talking to you anyway. Knowing it meant trouble. Knowing it meant that you would only care when it was convenient. Knowing that you're damaged goods.
By Woman With an Edge7 years ago in Humans
Why?
I just wish I knew why. Why out of all people you would hurt and betray me like this. I trusted you. I trusted you with my heart, body, and soul. And you hurt me in the worst way. You knew. You knew I had a stroke. And you lied to my face. Not only did you act like you didn't know, but you didn't care. You didn't care that I could, would, and should be dead right now. You were selfish. You only thought about your problems and instead of trying to work things out with someone who loved you unconditionally and with her entire being, she would do anything for you. But you humiliated her. You broke her heart in front of everyone. You made me feel so ugly. So fat. So stupid. So worthless. And I held you so high up on a pedestal. I talked about you to everyone and anyone who would listen. I stood up for you when anyone would say why am I with you. I didn't give a sh** what anyone ever said because I loved you and it didn't matter to me what anyone in the world thought of that. But not only did you never stand up for me, but you always took everyone else's side. And I still loved you. And you kept a huge secret from me. Why you chose to break my heart knowing I had a major stroke, that is the most hurtful thing anyone has ever done to me. I'd rather you cheated on me. I could forgive you more easily than for this. This makes me feel like you wanted me dead. Like you didn't care whether I was dead or alive. Like I meant NOTHING to you. And you were always my hero. I've written Poetry about how much I look up to you and love you. I've thought about you for every holiday and I'm still in debt for everything I've bought you. But see, that isn't what bothered me. It was that you never showed me you appreciated any of it. Nothing was ever good enough. Nothing I did, nothing I said, nothing. And slowly you stopped noticing me. You just saw right through me like I was some invisible being or a ghost. I just wanted to feel like you loved me. Like I was good enough for you. But no matter how much I expressed that, nothing ever changed. I know I have problems. I know I have anger issues. I know I curse too much. I know I get jealous too easily. But NOBODY'S perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. And I don't deserve this.
By Kristina King7 years ago in Humans
Break Ups Before Self-Care?
Break ups are hard. They even feel impossible at times... and honestly, when I read posts or watch youtubers talking about how to get through a breakup, I hate hearing “just focus on yourself, self care...” Yes, of course, that’s true. But what I really wanted to know was how to get through the pain before the self care? This is what I learned.
By Layla Elkassih7 years ago in Humans
Love Hurts
What I have learned in love and relationships over the past 30 years and why it's took me this long to figure it out... I think as women we are hardwired, or maybe convinced as children, that love is this fairy tale, a "Happily Ever After" place, where no one gets their feelings hurt, and it's unicorns and rainbows all the time. A place where there is never a harmful word spoken or an unspeakable act committed. Unfortunately, no place like that exists—or at least not in my universe. That and the fact that in the past I have had the crappiest taste in men you have ever seen. I love the broken and misunderstood, thinking that if I just loved them long enough and hard enough, they would somehow become a decent person. That is sooo far from the truth. Not to say that someone who is broken can never be loved, but people don't change unless they want to. Addicts and egocentric assholes are never going to change just because you want it... they have to want it. My mother used to say you could put me in a room full of successful, well-balanced millionaires and one broke motherfucker with no job or ambition, and that's who I would fall in love with. She was married four times, so where do you think I get it from? Even when I was fully warned by friends that said guy was absolutely no good for me, I would still dive head long into oblivion, knowing I could prove everyone wrong about him. For the record, I have never proven anyone wrong in any of these cases. That being said, you should probably listen to your friends and family when they speak.
By Vanessa Hampton7 years ago in Humans
How to Break a Soul Tie
A Soul Tie is such an intimate and close connection where you bond so much with another person, place, object, idea, etc. that it can't escape your mind. Daily interactions are just a sliver of the powerful bonding that occurs in a Soul Tie. Usually you can visualize in your head two ghostly vessels tied by an cord. The distance between them is only as far away as their hearts and minds. A Soul Tie can feel like it can never be rubbed off. I am here to offer relief; here are five ways to break a Soul Tie.
By SAYHERNAME Morgan Sankofa7 years ago in Humans
