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Whether you're lucky in love or still searching for your soulmate, learn how to be the best partner possible.

Dating When You're Trans and Gay
As a transgender gay man, the dating pool for me is very, very limited. You have to narrow it down to men, then queer men, and then queer men who aren't transphobic, which leaves maybe 20 guys. And I live in Maine, so it's more like five guys. This all being said: there are five rules to follow when you're trans and gay and dating.
By g. whiles9 years ago in Humans
Long Distance Relationships
Does being in a Long Distance Relationship have to be so complicated? Well for me, the answer is no! I am going to share some tips with everybody who's in an LDR and maybe just for people who would like to learn about how I make things work.
By Amber McFrederick9 years ago in Humans
Why Didn't I Think of That Earlier?
There is little more frustrating than the inability to come up with a witty or off-the-cuff remark when insulted (either accidentally or on purpose). You freeze. Possibly stand still. If you’re anything like me the word "fuck" repeats over and over in your head in this really urgent loop. Sometimes I used walk away to only realise at a later point that I have little crescent moons embedded in my palms from having my fists so tightly balled. The funny thing is that maybe half an hour later it comes to you—the exact thing that would’ve been perfect to say. The exact thing that would’ve knocked that smug look right off their face, or if they’d inadvertently offended you, make them reconsider the fact that they obviously hadn’t thought of your feelings. You know you’re better than this, right? You’re better than them. This wasn’t you at your best and you go mad thinking about how you’d do things differently and you would be the one walking away high-fiving people and looking smugger (is that even a word?) than that sap Juliette Lewis.
By Caroline Egan9 years ago in Humans
When Your Best Friend Surprises You/How to Create New Friendships
The most awkward thing that can ever happen to you is your best friend trying to surprise you; you know when you hate surprises but they still try to do something nice for you? It's still a surprise even though you know who it's from.
By Lizzy Arrow9 years ago in Humans
26 Relationship Life Hacks Every Couple Should Know
Having a relationship isn't easy. It takes work and will require you to learn how to talk things out efficiently. It's a partnership, and at times, even the most solid relationship will be a struggle to maintain.
By Sheera Lee9 years ago in Humans
Ways to Be a More Supportive Partner
Many people, when they feel they have done wrong to their lover, try to figure out ways to be a more supportive partner. Maybe they hurt their lover. Maybe they love a person something awful but fear that the relationship is tumbling between their outstretched fingers like so many grains of sand. Or maybe, they just weren't there enough or started showing all the signs that you need to rethink the relationship.
By Miranda O'Conner9 years ago in Humans
How Many Men Does It Take to Fall In Love?
I'd never been promiscuous, I wasn't a virgin but I wasn't loose either. I'd always wanted that fairytale love bullsh*t that they talked about in movies and in books. I'd cried over lost love and a man that would never reciprocate the feelings I had for him. I searched for it looking in all the wrong places. I met the man I thought I was going to marry at eighteen. I was in love completely. I fell for him hard, my first love, my first sexual encounter. I always felt that our time was strained and that we were meant to be together perhaps in a different time or place.
By De'Jah Williams9 years ago in Humans
How To Deal With a Stage-5 Clinger
In order to succeed socially, you have to know how to deal with difficult personality types. That's why it's crucial to learn how to deal with a Stage-5 Clinger before you actually have to do so.
By Ossiana Tepfenhart9 years ago in Humans
Breakup Etiquette: Is There Ever a Good Way to Dump Someone or Get Dumped?
The reason so many men and women have a tough time getting over a breakup is due to the way it is handled. When someone blindsides their partner with an abrupt goodbye, it does not allow them to have proper closure or understand why they were left high and dry; often with a one-line text message!
By Susan McCord9 years ago in Humans
Invisible Chronic Illnesses
So a friend or family member has an invisible chronic illness and all you seem to do is upset them? It feels like you're constantly walking on eggshells and you can't do anything right. Well here's some things you probably shouldn't say if you want to improve that relationship:
By Rebecca Gannon9 years ago in Humans
A Practical Guide to Feigning Confidence When You Are Shy
“Scientists have found the gene for shyness. They would have found it years ago, but it was hiding behind a couple of other genes.”—Jonathan Katz
By Madawna Bristow9 years ago in Humans
Embrace Your Inner Goddess
Every day we wake up and are faced with choices. Every choice that we make has an outcome. Life is a lot like, a choose your own adventure book. When we make a choice our life takes us in different directions. If we decide to not make a choice, that is a choice in its self. Not deciding has its own set of consequences, but I will go into that a little bit later, without getting too far ahead of myself.
By Nicole (Nikki) M.9 years ago in Humans