What on earth can maintain the feelings between people, so that people get along with each other become very harmonious, so that it lasts for a long time?

People's lives, no matter how spectacular, or ordinary, are unavoidable to communicate with other people, to create relationships.

If you're in the right relationship, you'll have more happiness. Relationships can get in the way and leave you feeling anxious and miserable.

For love, the nature of communication between lovers is the process of blending into each other's lives, which is more difficult. Especially if you're in a long-term relationship,

It's a very difficult process.

As an emotional field of Zhihu, I will share a few love tips for you, I hope you can harvest a long-term love ~

Learn to give yourself enough sense of security

Not good at dealing with interpersonal relations, the most fundamental reason, is the deep heart of the lack of security. The more you care about something, the easier it is to worry about gains and losses.

If you're in a relationship and you're always upset about the little things, you don't feel that safe inside.

"I know it's nothing, but I get angry when I think of him talking to a female colleague."

"Obviously he did very well, what will report, but also always doubt him......"

All of this is more of a personal problem. A lot of intangible sense of security, should be given to their own.

If one partner is insecure, love can be a mystery and difficult to relax. So, how to build a sense of security for yourself?

● Low self-esteem in relationships: People with low self-esteem in relationships often indulge in a pessimistic self-world, thinking that they are not good enough for their partner. Once the other person shows up

The opposite sex is prone to suspicion and lack of security. So, don't feel inferior, don't feel inferior, don't feel inferior! Believe in himself, believe in the place in his heart

Love him well and be loved well.

● Don't be too possessive: Excessive possessiveness will make your lack of security continue to enlarge the black hole, and will overwhelm the other person's love

Love requires the attachment of two people, but it is also free.

● The more disappointed a person is, the more he wants to leave. If you don't get the response you're looking for, you'll end up in

The abyss of grievance and disappointment sinks deeper and deeper. To express to Ta in a timely manner, timely expression of the problem can be solved in a timely manner ~

2. Effective communication is important

Many of my friends just broke up because of a big fight. I was so out of control in an argument, saying things, doing things

Is not rational.

It is mentioned in The book, The Louder the Sweeter: "Any party in an argument may be the bearer of the evil argument and is hurting themselves. That every time

Arguments will become a weapon to hurt your feelings, and gradually, repression and escape will be your first choice to deal with differences, and ultimately, the direction

Break up."

Thus, quarrel is undoubtedly the greatest test between lovers.

How to avoid the damage caused by arguments and maintain a long-term relationship? I think couples need to communicate effectively

Once two people have a serious conflict, effective communication can really solve the problem.

Two people in love, communication should be the same as talking - honest, in exchange for true heart.

or the vast majority of people, they need to learn how to communicate with others by heart so that their happiness can be fully charged.