self help
Self help, because you are your greatest asset.
Don't Hesitate. Fumigate!
We know that toxicity is poison, however toxicity isn't just limited to some form of dangerous chemical, or the like. Many humans themselves are actually toxic, as they can be very unpleasant in a pervasive or insidious way, causing destruction and harm to the lives of others, including you and I. Now let's not be led to believe that we are talking about the murderers, rapists, pedophiles, thieves, and other criminals, here. We are actually talking about our workmates, our friends, our partner, our parents, and other loved ones. In fact, everywhere we go, we are constantly surrounded by these toxic people, and for most of us, we are either simply unaware of the harm these people are causing us, or we are aware of this harm, but are just too afraid to do anything about it. Even worse, we may actually be one of these toxic individuals ourselves. So what exactly constitutes someone to be toxic? Well, the greatest, although technically speaking, the worst, quality of a toxic person, is they breed negativity. These are the type of people whom rarely hold a conversation that doesn't include some form of whinging or complaining. They love to play the victim in life, constantly talking about how they believe nothing ever goes their way in life, how they are far from privileged, and how things always go wrong for them. They complain about everything from their job, to their partner. Nothing in life is ever satisfying enough for them, and they love to prey on others who can either relate, or show compassion, to share their tale of woe with. Most conversations with them are basically of this negative nature, and they very rarely have anything productive, inspiring, uplifting, and encouraging to share. So, what happens? The more we listen to these negative individuals, the more we are exposed to this negativity, and it's only natural that our mindset will follow suit to whichever environment it is exposed to. We too begin to feel negative about life, we begin to feel victimized, and we begin to heap our negativity upon others also.
By David Stidston5 years ago in Motivation
Hello Death, Goodbye Life
Death is not the end so we've been told, nobody truly knows what happens when we die. The only person who knows what happens is you, only you know how your story ends. Although the end is only the beginning, because death is life; a rebirth if you can understand. We are energy that cannot be destroyed but simply transferred like reincarnation. To start anew, to live again, to create memories and gain knowledge, to recognize our higher selves. Our past choices do not define us, they only shape the present but they have no real control unless you give it that power. Because everything starts in the mind, our bodies are a hub to feel, to connect with ourselves, and to love. We cannot experience life as a ball of energy, so we were given the power to reproduce bodies to hold ourselves in, to be able to feel pain. Our mind holds power to everything because it is how we receive thoughts to put it into action. Our mind gives us knowledge hidden within ourselves but the mind can also replay old thoughts again to make you feel as though you're living in a situation you are not hence why people such as myself overthink a lot. Everyone has their own reality, their own views and perspectives about life. Because everyone is on their own path but we're all connected, our souls are connected for we are all one. Outside perspectives shouldn't matter to you, especially if they won't affect you. People judge and are going to have their own outlook on you so why not live your life for you and have fun with it. You get one life, for you will not return back as your own self you have shaped your persona around. I say this to say, our time is precious because it is time we cannot get back or rewind. Time is constantly moving and it stops for no one. Take your time live your truth, write your story how you want. You are powerful and you hold the very pen to change your life, no matter where you are or who you want to be, you can change your reality. Your mind holds that key, to break through societal beliefs and live your own. I am proud of what I've become and who I am becoming to be. You are not without what you already have within. Be gentle to yourself and flow with the universe, you sweet soul. Life is all about trials and tribulations, it is okay to make mistakes but do not let them control you. Learn from them and grow from them, be the best version of "you", you can be. Trust yourself that you can make the right choices to guide you on your life journey. Be able to give your mind that healing to get it together. Our energy is meant to be preserved by us not to be drained or taken away by people who feed off of it. Disgusting beings that will drain you until you lose your way and become a zombie in your life. Protect your energy, take care of yourself because regardless of the fact, only you matter. People that you chose to welcome into your light are an added plus to your path but just like you, people come and go out of your life. I had to learn that the hard way, the world keeps moving as if nothing changed, only the people who live on it change. We lose friends, and we gain greater ones. If you find that special love one that holds you on a pedestal, hold on to them tight. Maybe you'll find someone else that fills your greater attraction. And I met that person but There's so many people out here but I settled for one. He's apart of my soul, because of him I elevated myself, I became more Intune with myself. I love myself unconditionally and love others the same thanks to him. He doesn't drain my energy, we're on the same wave length and we help each other grow, giving nutrients to our mental, physical, and emotionally state of being. I say this to say, watch who you call your friends, sometimes they may have served their purpose and you have to let them go especially if they are not elevating or helping you in any kind of way. Sometimes people aren't going to understand your views and aspects of life and you have to respect that because you cannot force them to see what they cannot see themselves. This goes for relationships too, infatuation and lust are a real thing and they will drain you and blind you. Real love is unconditionally, you'll truly know the love is real because it is a feeling, a strong energic pull but sometimes that love can blind you from seeing the real true intentions of someone. I'm a sweet soul and my pure intentions are just that, pure as they come. I hold no anger in my heart and I'm a very understanding and forgiving soul. I see all points of perspectives because I have that kind of mindset to understand all aspects of an individuals reality. Because I know we all go through our own things on our life journey. Kindness and being open hearted goes along way because most us weren't showed that kindness before. Some us were never properly loved or showed how so when someone comes into our life bearing those gifts we don't know how to accept them and receive in the truest form so we push them away rather than let them in to help heal our soul. We can all help and learn from each other, we may be on different paths but our world's are the same once they cross paths. So if we cross paths accept my love, I truly want to envelope those in a healing aura. We can grow from each other, knowledge is power and the power of knowledge is all in us. So much is stored and retained in our mind, hidden away until we unlock those part of ourselves we never really knew and embrace our individuality and become one within ourselves. You don't have the take on the load by yourself, it is okay to ask for help sometimes, you may get to a point where you need some helpful insight and that's fine. Don't become so dependent on people that you can't depend on yourself though. People come and go as quickly as they come and some people will try to control you based on what you asked for, which is messed up but not everybody's intentions is pure. I had to learn the hard way, I've been taken advantage, used, manipulated, and abused. I love hard and it was difficult to differentiate between bad and good love. This took some time and repeating lessons to finally say no, to finally put myself first and protect myself because takers are just going to keep on taking if you let them and I refuse to waste anymore energy and time on people like that. My circle has become so small, it is only my family and my lover that remains. My heart is open to meet and find new people but the old friends I had remained on a level that drained and served no purpose to me. There was no bad blood, I genuinely care and love them but they are not going to make me choose one person over the other when my love is the same, it is just expressed in different ways. They weren't seeing life the way I seen it and how could i make them see when they could not. I was carrying all their energy, forcing myself into a place i did not fit in anymore. We do not relate on the same things, i have a personally life outside of them and it was weighing so heavy on me. I was stressing so hard trying to be a good friend and I was but too them i was always ditching them to go be with my lover but that wasn't the case. We weren't doing anything and i felt drained being with them. It was literally the same thing for them, it was repeating and i am tired of feeling like I have to please them when they aren't even as half of worried about the friendship like i am so I am choosing to let it go. I wish the best for them but we are own entirely different planes and I just don't resonate on theirs. I am fine with being alone, the alone is okay, the silence is okay but they will not make feel bad about being with someone I love. I've been with my friends for years and yet when i am finally found someone to add to my soul and I am happy now its I'm a bad friend not doing enough. I'm tired of making excuses as to why I'm not seeing them, so I am simply cutting ties and if they cannot understand at least I will because I know it is nothing but pure on my end. I chose myself over anybody and I know I was a great friend, I did everything and beyond without expecting return, I can't expect to please everyone and I chose to stop trying to please them and be at peace at that. I didn't feel sad or angry, I felt at ease, it was simply ties I did not need to keep hanging on too, dragging dead weight around. To end this off, let go of the fear and worry and flow with the universe your divinity is secured. Trust the most high or the universe or however you chose to identify the higher power, has your best interest in mind. Live life to fullest, explore, go to a different place, try something new but most of all live for you.
By VeryGhostly5 years ago in Motivation
Are You the One ?
I love this world and all the people in it.Many of us lead busy and I think we may have gotten so busy trying to get ahead , working on our goals,and making sure that we are OK with all that is going on, that it becomes easy to say that we do not have the time. The only way that each of us, individually, will be well is that if all of us are well,collectively.There are symptoms of the need all around us.The symptoms are seen in our families, in the lives of friends and also our neighbors. So many from all walks of life are being engulfed by anxiety,poverty, brokenness and now a health crisis. We as a society actually care about one another and are concerned with the rising number of people that are in need. We just have to be mindful that the solution involves genuinely take time with one another in a more tangible way.
By Vicki L Webb5 years ago in Motivation
What is Your 2021 Power Word?
2020 has been a beast! Full of disease, death, isolation, stress, and many more events that made us all want to hide under the covers for days. So do we hide, or do we stand up strong to finish out the rest of the year? I personally want to put 2020 behind me and push on to 2021. While looking back on the unfortunate events sprinkled throughout 2020, I felt as if I wanted to carry a word with power into the new year to motivate myself to stay strong.
By Steven Rice5 years ago in Motivation
Being Strong Doesn't Require Breaking in Silence
Walking in the doors of Target for the first time since the pandemic began should have been reason enough for joy — the kind of joy that involves dancing through the aisles in song. Instead, I walked through the store wearing my mask and thinking, Something is very wrong with me. On the heels of that thought came another: and no one even notices.
By Crystal Jackson5 years ago in Motivation
Loved Up Flower Girl
As women, we have this crazy idea that we must sacrifice ourselves for everyone else! Let me be the first to say that YES as women we play so many roles in life however, we were not put on this planet to completely exhaust ourselves to the point of destruction. There is almost this unspoken truth in today’s society that if (as a woman) you put yourself first then you are being selfish… That could not be farther from the truth!
By Anatoly Boardman5 years ago in Motivation
The Path I take
The journey to obesity wasn’t a hard one. It came from depression, it came from a dark place inside, where a small child wanted to hide. I wanted so desperately to not be seen or heard that I hid with the only thing I knew I could control. Food. I would eat snack cakes, crackers, chips, and anything I could, all while beating myself up for doing it. I hated myself for every bite I took, but at the same time, those bites would comfort a part inside of me that needed attention. The part of me that was starving for love, for acceptance, so starved that I comforted that need with food.
By Kaaryn Stowell5 years ago in Motivation
Self-Care, Not Self-Sabotage What Is Self-Sabotage?
Here we are going to talk about the sworn enemy of self-care; self-sabotage. It isn’t that easy to see what is getting us down, preventing us from reaching goals, or even preventing the desire to achieve. We all have areas of our life that are 80% good most of the time. For instance, some of us are comfortable with our work and friendships but don’t really have a dating life. For others, we are really good with friendships and relationships but are afraid to make big moves to start our own business. Self-Sabotage is universal, because everyone has areas of their life they prevent themselves from improving.
By Kate Nitzschke5 years ago in Motivation
Your Life Is About to Have a Dramatic Change
When we think about radical changes in our lives, we always imagine something either very sad or overly positive. Like something broken in our body, losing someone we care about, or winning the lottery and going to live forever on a wonderful tropical beach.
By Zen Michael5 years ago in Motivation
Day One: Does it count if I took a nap?
Today was the official start of my 30 day challenge. I awoke at 6:30 AM and surprisingly really enjoyed it. It was still dark outside and my heavy eyes begged for the opportunity for five more minutes. However, I'm the boss of my own body and I wanted to get up at 6:30 AM so that's what I did and began my day.
By Lucy 5 years ago in Motivation
On Your Mark??
Greetings My Awesomesauce Friends, May I begin with a moment of frustration? As I sit to write this, I have found myself a tad bit tired. Truthfully I just can’t anymore. I can’t with the, 😳MG can you believe how fast this year has flown rhetoric. So if you would allow me, I’d like to just chuck on by the thought that I just wrote you yesterday, November One, and now Its the 28th. No No No.. I will just move on with what I believe to be exciting news.
By Erik DeSean Barrett5 years ago in Motivation
