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The Workload You Build Yourself
Most adults describe overwhelm as something that arrives from outside. They talk about it as if it settles onto the body without warning. Overwhelm is most often self-induced. It grows out of choices that protect comfort instead of finishing the work. It forms from distractions that feel harmless but produce weight later. People often see the feeling as pressure from the job when it is really pressure from tasks left undone.
By Dr. Mozelle Martin9 days ago in Humans
The moment you truly like yourself
The moment you truly like yourself is not the moment you feel better. It’s the moment something stops asking for permission inside you. I didn’t reach it through insight or courage. I reached it through fracture. Through realizing that fear wasn’t the problem—it was the symptom of a distance I kept maintaining from myself.
By Randolphe Tanoguem9 days ago in Humans
Why Machines Make Decisions Faster—But Humans Still Matter
Machines are fast. They process millions of data points in seconds, recognize patterns invisible to the human eye, and deliver decisions with astonishing efficiency. From recommending what we watch to approving loans and diagnosing diseases, machines are increasingly trusted to decide for us.
By Mind Meets Machine9 days ago in Humans
How to Get Over Emotional Cheating Without Losing Yourself
Emotional cheating cuts deep. It may not necessarily require physical contact, but it frequently hurts just as much. Trust crumbles softly. Doubt settles very quickly. Many people feel lost, confused, and unsure of who they are following the event. On the Bloom Boldly platform, we believe that you can heal without shrinking or losing your voice. We may move on with confidence, clarity, and self-respect.
By Bloom Boldly9 days ago in Humans
The Quiet Contract of Asian America and the Architecture of Conditional Belonging
America presents itself as a system built on arrival. Come, contribute, comply and belonging will follow. 😊 The promise is implicit, rarely stated aloud, but reinforced through law, labor markets, education systems, and cultural mythology. For many Asian immigrants and their descendants, this promise has always functioned less as an invitation than as a conditional contract; one that demands output without guaranteeing protection.
By Cadma10 days ago in Humans
The Misalignment of America’s Foundational Systems
Systems are meant to organize to provide predictability, fairness, and governance. In the United States, however, the very architecture of its social, political, economic, and legal systems was built on a hierarchy that placed whiteness at the center. This hierarchical system was not simply discriminatory in isolated instances; it was systemic, stitched into the law, enforced through policy, and embedded in culture, producing outcomes that shape every facet of life for people of color, especially African Americans. The fault in this system is not in isolated acts of prejudice, but in the deep structural design that has historically concentrated power and wealth in white hands while marginalizing others. This is not a matter of individual ill will; it is the story of how the nation’s systems were constructed and perpetuated over centuries.
By Cadma10 days ago in Humans
Fly Your Flag
“You are such a freak!” “Why can’t you be normal?” “Would it be so hard for you to be like everyone else?” “ You like what?’ “You do that?” “ Why would you, want that, or want to do that or like that?” Sound familiar? I bet a vast majority of us have. I know I did and often still do.
By Alexandra Grant10 days ago in Humans
Love Divided
I was scrolling through my emails recently when I noticed an interesting article posted by users on Quora entitled ”why do Men struggle mentally in relationships” normally like most people I take a quick glance and the email is confined to the bin, however something about this post captured my intrigue so I decided to take a look further, also to unashamedly see if I could draw comparisons to my own life and experiences. Then, out of surprise, I found a comment which threw me off guard, a topic rarely even discussed out in the open. The comment highlighted how racial differences can become the defining factor in mixed relationships which cause mental health issues.
By Malachai Hough10 days ago in Humans
Ben Shelton and the Pressure of Growing Up in Pro Tennis
Some tennis careers begin quietly, while others unfold under a bright, uncomfortable spotlight. Ben Shelton belongs to the second group. From his first breakthrough matches, expectations followed him closely. Fans noticed his power. Commentators talked about his age. Social media moved faster than his own understanding of what was happening. A name suddenly carried weight. For many viewers, Ben Shelton feels like a story still being written in real time. His journey is not just about forehands and serves. It is about learning who you are while the world watches. This article looks at Ben Shelton’s rise, his playing style, the pressure surrounding young athletes, and what his path says about patience in modern tennis.
By Muqadas khan10 days ago in Humans
Your Phone Is Reshaping Your Personality
Your phone wakes you up. It tells you the news. It shows you what to care about. It decides what you see—and what you don’t.
By Mind Meets Machine10 days ago in Humans
The Strange Grief of Letting Go
Missing someone who hurt you is one of the most confusing emotional experiences a person can have. It doesn’t make sense on paper. If someone caused you pain, disrespected you, or repeatedly disappointed you, logic says you should feel relief when they’re gone. And sometimes you do. But alongside that relief often lives a quieter feeling: longing. You miss their presence. Their voice. Their familiarity. Even when you know, deeply, that staying would have damaged you more.
By mike10 days ago in Humans
The Exhaustion You Can’t Sleep Away
There is a type of tiredness that sleep does not fix. You can rest for eight hours, wake up on time, drink coffee, and still feel heavy. Not physically heavy in a way that points to illness, but internally heavy, like your mind is carrying more weight than your body can explain. Many people assume this means they are lazy, unmotivated, or broken in some way. In reality, it often means they are emotionally and mentally exhausted, even if they cannot clearly identify why.
By mike10 days ago in Humans