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The Strange Grief of Letting Go
Missing someone who hurt you is one of the most confusing emotional experiences a person can have. It doesn’t make sense on paper. If someone caused you pain, disrespected you, or repeatedly disappointed you, logic says you should feel relief when they’re gone. And sometimes you do. But alongside that relief often lives a quieter feeling: longing. You miss their presence. Their voice. Their familiarity. Even when you know, deeply, that staying would have damaged you more.
By mike10 days ago in Humans
The Exhaustion You Can’t Sleep Away
There is a type of tiredness that sleep does not fix. You can rest for eight hours, wake up on time, drink coffee, and still feel heavy. Not physically heavy in a way that points to illness, but internally heavy, like your mind is carrying more weight than your body can explain. Many people assume this means they are lazy, unmotivated, or broken in some way. In reality, it often means they are emotionally and mentally exhausted, even if they cannot clearly identify why.
By mike10 days ago in Humans
The Invisible War Between Who You Are and Who You Want to Be
The Pattern You Pretend Not to See Most people like to believe they are their own biggest supporters. They say they want growth, success, peace, love, and stability. And on the surface, that might be true. But if you look closely at behavior instead of words, a different story often appears. Procrastination. Avoidance. Inconsistency. Choosing comfort over progress. Repeating habits you already know are hurting you. This isn’t because people enjoy suffering. It’s because there is an internal conflict happening quietly beneath awareness.
By mike10 days ago in Humans
Why Burnout Is More Common Among High Achievers
High achievers are often admired from a distance. They’re the disciplined ones. The consistent ones. The dependable ones.
By Millicent Chisom11 days ago in Humans
Wounds of Relationship
At a wedding, I encountered an old acquaintance. She greeted me warmly, and I sat nearby. From the moment she saw me, it was clear she was delighted. She said she had been wanting to meet me for a long time, expressing a mixture of joy and relief at finally getting the chance.
By Sudais Zakwan11 days ago in Humans
When “Find Your Passion” Goes Wrong
“Find your passion” is everywhere — in graduation speeches, self‑help books, career workshops, and inspirational Instagram posts. It’s presented as the key to a meaningful life: once you discover the thing you were meant to do, everything else will fall into place.
By Tracy Stine11 days ago in Humans
Standing In A Public Toilet, A Fellow Woman Called Me A Man
I haven’t told anyone this story before. The only person who knows it is my ex-husband, and that’s because he was there and he saw the devastation written across my face.
By Ellen Frances11 days ago in Humans
Coco Gauff and the Quiet Weight of Growing Up on Court
At nineteen, most people are still learning who they are. Coco Gauff had to do that while the world watched, judged, and expected greatness from her. Tennis courts became classrooms. Losses became lessons. Applause came with pressure. This is not just a sports story. It is a human one. Coco Gauff grew up in front of millions, carrying hopes that were often heavier than her racket. Her journey shows how talent can open doors, but resilience decides who stays standing. This article explores Coco Gauff beyond scores and trophies. It looks at her childhood, her struggles, her growth, and the quiet strength it takes to keep going when everyone already thinks you have arrived.
By Muqadas khan11 days ago in Humans
We Built Intelligent Machines—Now They’re Shaping Our Minds
We built intelligent machines to serve us. To calculate faster. To organize better. To make life easier. But somewhere along the way, the relationship shifted.
By Mind Meets Machine11 days ago in Humans
Fear of Being Average
The fear of being average doesn’t show up as fear. It shows up as silence. You don’t feel it scream. You feel it settle.
By Randolphe Tanoguem11 days ago in Humans
The Quiet Loss of Self in a Fast World
When You Realize Something Is Off At some point, many people experience a strange realization: they don’t feel like themselves anymore. It’s not dramatic. It’s not always painful. It’s subtle. You still wake up, go to work or school, talk to people, and function. But inside, there’s a quiet distance between who you are now and who you remember being. Things that used to excite you don’t hit the same. Conversations feel more shallow than they used to. You might even struggle to describe what’s wrong because nothing is obviously broken. Yet something feels misaligned.
By mike11 days ago in Humans
The Silent Confusion of Modern Life
There is a strange kind of emptiness that doesn’t look like sadness and doesn’t feel like depression in the traditional sense. It shows up quietly, often in people who appear to be doing “okay.” They have a routine. They have responsibilities. They might even have things others would call success. Yet beneath all of that, there is a persistent feeling that something is missing, something unnamed, something they can’t quite put into words. This feeling is becoming increasingly common, and it isn’t because people are weak. It’s because modern life is very good at keeping us busy but very bad at helping us feel aligned.
By mike11 days ago in Humans