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Whether you're lucky in love or still searching for your soulmate, learn how to be the best partner possible.

Connect and Disconnect
Meditate, read 2 pages of a good book before bed or when you wake up really early. We are always on our phones chasing messages. emails and dms. See how long you can go without your phone in the morning and then when you really connect imagine those people are really there in the room.
By Jessica Trias5 years ago in Humans
In Love with Social Anxiety
There is no formula for falling in love, it just happens. And it didn't take me long to know i was in love with him, it happened, and it happened fast. But falling in love was the easy part. To me he is the perfect man, he couldn't hold any flaw, but to everyone else, he wouldn't speak, couldn't speak. I didn't realize that Social Anxiety was actually something noticeable until i met him. With me he was comfortable, but it took a long time to break down his walls for him to be comfortable with me. And for everyone else, it took years.
By Vennessa Jane Perry5 years ago in Humans
Relationship talks
Relationships are the very foundation of our society. Relationships help us to define who we are. The idiom, “no man is an island,” speaks volume about relationships as it highlights the necessity of relationships. We need relationships. Relationship between parents, aunts and uncles, siblings, cousins, and other relatives and family members are important to the growth and development of a person. Their personality, self-esteem, and world views are reflective of the successful (nonsuccess) relationships they’ve experienced in their lifetime. The extraordinarily relationship between individuals that involves intimacy is our natural urge or longing for companionship. This relationship type is woven into the fabric of mankind. Our natural instinct to procreate leads us into sexual acts not necessarily for the aforementioned purpose but nonetheless, nature takes control at times. We meet someone and determine after spending some time together that we cannot see a future without waking up to that person so we decide to form a union. As a newly engaged couple, there are a list of items the couple must address before taking the next step. Marriage is a lifelong commitment to one another but there are just as many divorces as there are marriages. Some of the curated reason are addressed below. First, many people fall in lust and not love. The lust for one another physically is so strong that it temporarily clouds judgement and disables logical thinking. This lust is not an overnight feeling. It can last for years and when it finally wears off, there is a war pending. To fight against falling in lust and not love, there are questions the couple should ask of one another. Getting to know someone is not always about knowing their favorite color or movie. It’s also knowing their plans for the future and what those plans would look like with each other. If the plans don’t align, the relationship won’t work. Start with simple issues but be sure to cover these main issues. How do you feel about children, do you plan on having children (why or why not), if so, how many? If any of you or both of you already have kids, how do you feel about more. The next question assuming one or both already have kids, do you have life insurance, if something were to happen to you today what will happen with your children? Do you have an estimate plan or will? These questions might seem a bit invasive but they are a necessity prior to marriage. Once married, these plans (already established) should just be modified to include the spouse. The next set of questions revolve around intimacy. These questions allow the couple to have reasonable expectations about sex. How important is sex to you? Why is it so important or unimportant? What do you expect from your partner sexually? Are you adventurous or conservative? How do you feel about giving or receiving compliments? Why? Boosting your partner’s ego or esteem is an important factor in a successful relationship. Women and men who don’t receive the stroking of their ego (as I tend to call it) will venture out to find someone who does or will become interested in someone who does shower them with compliments The next set of questions involve living together and creating a new family. What do you feel about home ownership? Some people don’t mind renting, while others want to own something tangible that can be passed down and increase the family’s generational Wellbeing. Where do you plan on settling down? What state, city, country, etc. A couple should decide this together base on agreed upon factors. One of the members of the pair may want to live in D.C. while the other in Miami. Sometimes one will move with the other just to make that person happy and forfeit their own happiness. This is usually a recipe for disaster. The next set of questions might seem a bit trivial but they are necessary. I’ll end with this set. How do you feel about family gatherings or large family functions? How do you feel about having company over? How frequently or infrequent? Why do you feel that way? This set of questions address the social butterfly in the relationship and will eliminate contention between the couple and their friends and family later on. Some people love big crowds will others don’t. Some people love entertaining guests while others don’t. Some people don’t mind company 7 days a week while others do mind. It’s best to learn these things straight away than to find out after your nuptials. heRelationshiplps. If I missed something or you want to discuss a section send me a message on Instagram or Facebook or email me: [email protected]
By Chris Ricks5 years ago in Humans
6 Steps To Get Over Your Ex
If you know that you’ll *eventually* be over your ex, why not make that time now? I know exactly how it is. When I broke up with my ex-fiance of five years, I was a wreck. I didn’t know when I’d start feeling better and I was convinced that feeling my emotions would destroy me (overdramatic much?).
By Clair Lofthouse5 years ago in Humans
Guiltless Gift Guide
Am I the only one who thinks like this? I hear so much about people saving for months upon months or even maxing out their credit cards in order to buy an often unnecessary Christmas gift. Now, before you pin me as a bit of a scrooge, I would like to state that I do enjoy giving gifts, but I do not believe that people should go into debt for the sake of a seasonal celebration. These overspending habits often lead to feelings of financial guilt. I have often suggested the total elimination of gift-giving altogether in order to set financial health as the priority.
By La Roi Thompson5 years ago in Humans
Gift Ideas For The Man In Your Life
If there is a special man in your life, it's understandable that you want to find the right gift for him. Shopping for your husband or boyfriend, while fun and exciting as you pick out the perfect present, can be overwhelming when you don't know what to get. Perhaps he is difficult to buy for, or maybe he is the type of person who already has everything. Take a look at these gift suggestions if you find yourself drawing a blank as you're shopping for your partner. There's sure to be something on this list that appeals to him, even if you don't know what to get him.
By Paisley Hansen5 years ago in Humans
Here Is What Happens to Your Online Accounts When You Die?
a Facebook account detailing your daily life and personal history; an e-mail account brimming with personal and business communications; a Flickr album and, perhaps, accounts at some sites you would rather your family didn't know about.
By Student Matters5 years ago in Humans
5 Vital Questions to Ask Yourself Before Winning any Argument
I bet you enjoy it when your point has enough weight and wins a discussion. You silenced every opinion with your argument. It’s an assuring feeling.
By Vytas5 years ago in Humans
How to Live Alone
How to Live Alone When I first realized that I would be moving for a new job, I was excited. I thought that I would have so much time to meet people, do whatever I wanted, take my classes, and work! I had not anticipated the depth of my biggest challenge thus far, loneliness.
By Madison McDonald5 years ago in Humans
Mindful Gifting...
Gifting is an art form. Something that should have thought put into it. Never to be gone into lightly. When one thinks about gifting the individual should be thought of completely, never what one thinks the other person wants, but knows the other person wants or needs. This is a key component to proper gift-giving. As of recent, it has also become imperative that we think about what footprint any gift we give has, as we need to think about our footprint in general. So this art form has taken on a new level of dynamics that make it open for more creativity, in my opinion, of course.
By Mia Lynn5 years ago in Humans
How to Talk to someone when you are angry
1. Don’t React To Anger With Anger Know that you’re only getting angry because someone seems to be angry with you. Try to take a step back and figure out why the person feels the way they do. It could be either due to a misunderstanding, an assumption due to misinformation, or they could just be having a bad day. 2. Stick to the Subject of concern Make your point without attacks or accusations . It can be very easy to get angry and just open the floodgates in terms of every little thing that has annoyed you recently, but it’s not helpful to bring it all up in the context of a single conversation. 3. Take a Timeout If you are in an argument, STOP. Tell the other person this is not going anywhere and that you’d like to take some time and continue in another xx minutes. This takes a ton of self-restraint, but it will likely achieve a much healthier end point overall. 4. Listen and Prepare Try to hear the other person’s point of view. Sometimes we go into a conversation so mad that we forget the other person has an entire inner world of their own, and they may have perceived what happened very differently. By being prepared to listen and absorb, you may come to realise that you can’t even stay angry any more. 5. Write your feelings and thoughts Whether it’s keeping a journal or writing a scathing email that you’ll never send, putting words down on paper is an important step for coping with anger. This also has the secondary effect of allowing you to understand why you were so angry to begin with, which is helpful for understanding triggers going forward. 6. Breathe In and Out Deep breaths increases oxygen flow to angry brain and stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system, the opposite of “fight or flight”, often called “rest and digest”, which leads to a state of calmness. Next time you get angry, try this out. 7. Distraction Distraction is a short term but important technique for managing anger. Ask your partner for a time-out and try playing a distracting game on your phone for about 20 minutes. In fact, researchers are developing computer games for that very purpose. After 20 minutes of distraction, you’ll be able to apply a level-headed approach to the situation at hand definitely as in time-out step.
By Aryan5 years ago in Humans
How Not to Get The Girl
Hi everyone and welcome to the unrequited love society. Sorry boys, this one is not for you. Odds are if you clicked on this you've struggled with your fair share of finding love as a lesbian woman or you want to know what to look out for in the world. Well hi, my name is Savannah and this is my probably not so helpful guide to how to find potential love and avoid potential heartbreak. This will describe types of girls that you will generically come across and will also give you a list of things that I have done and you should never do in order to get the girl.
By Savannah Huntsman5 years ago in Humans